Praise your child every time he/she does something good or something right. If children receive praise for a job well done, it encourages them to do well the next time too. But if their efforts go unnoticed they will not bother to try so hard the next time.
If you praise your child often, you will notice a dramatic improvement in your child’s behaviour over time. Your child will also develop confidence, as praise imparts a healthy feeling of being loved and cared for.
When parents praise their children, they often offer general praise. For example, if your child finishes his homework soon after returning from school instead of waiting for the last minute to do it, you will probably say something like “Great!” However, giving your child more specific praise is much more effective than simply passing a general exclamation of approval. This is what is called as Effective Praise, as coined by Ray Burke, Ph.D. and Ron Herron in their award-winning book Common Sense Parenting.
Show your satisfaction and approval to your child, and by doing so, make sure your child knows exactly what he is being praised for. If your child calls you up from a friend’s house to let you know he will be getting home late, don’t let such an action go unnoticed. It shows responsibility on your child’s part. It also shows that your child is sensitive to your feelings, and is concerned that you don’t worry. So instead of just saying something like “Good boy,” say, “It is very responsible of you to call me and let me know you will be late.” So instead of just calling your child a good boy, you have said that he has behaved responsibly, and you have told him why. You can be sure child will be glowing with the praise.
You could also follow up the praise with a reward once in awhile. “I am so happy that you have done well at school. To show you how proud I am, I will buy you the guitar you wanted. I now know that you will continue to focus on your studies, and will not let the guitar distract you.” The reward does not have to be something expensive or even something material. Think about a suitable gift.