Low self-esteem can negatively affect virtually every facet of your life, including your relationships, your job and your health.
However, you can overcome this low self-esteem syndrome by a simple method of introspection and building up self-confidence.
Step 1: Identify troubling conditions or situations
Think about the conditions or situations that seem to deflate your self-esteem. Common triggers might include crisis at home or work place, changes in daily routine, new challenges, change in living conditions, relationship breakdowns and so on.
Step 2: Become aware of thoughts and beliefs
Once you’ve identified troubling conditions or situations, pay attention to your thoughts about them through introspection. Your thoughts and beliefs might be positive, negative or neutral. They might be rational, based on reason or facts, or irrational, based on false ideas.
Step 3: Challenge negative or inaccurate thinking
Your initial thoughts might not be the only possible way to view a situation — so test the accuracy of your thoughts. Ask yourself whether your view is consistent with facts and logic or whether other explanations for the situation might be plausible.
Be aware automatic, long-standing ways of thinking about your life and yourself. These long-held thoughts and beliefs can feel normal and factual, but many are actually just opinions or perceptions.
Do not undervalue yourself, put yourself down or use self-deprecating jokes. Try to overcome negative perceptions about yourself and generate positive thoughts.
Step 4: Adjust your thoughts and beliefs
Replace negative or inaccurate thoughts with accurate, constructive thoughts. Treat yourself with kindness and encouragement. Pessimism can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. You don’t need to react negatively to negative thoughts. Instead, think of negative thoughts as signals to try new, healthy patterns.
As you begin to recognize the thoughts and beliefs that are contributing to your low self-esteem, you can actively counter them. As your self-esteem increases, your confidence and sense of well-being are likely to improve too.